This is how you started the “kind atmosphere of a discussion” when I asked you your opinion on a criticism I had heard, essentially calling me a contrarian.
Even if your misinterpretation was accurate and I really had been criticizing, that isn’t a “kind atmosphere.”
And this demeanor was not confined to that one interaction.
I have to simply say here that you are wrong. What exactly are you taking issue with? I understand it be the line where I said “…every detail is important and should not be treated flippantly.”
That was to support my next statement in which I assessed that “tossing in… so randomly… the wisdom of which I must question.”
I’m presenting a complete thought, explaining my position and the reason why I held it. If I had said “You need to understand that details are important in movies and writing,” yeah, that’d be condescending. But I didn’t. It’s like the difference between saying “you know that 2+2=4, right?” and saying “since 2+2=4, we should grab another pair.” The latter is explaining the reasoning for an action, rather than presuming that you understand my reasoning.
(Both examples could sound condescending because of their simplicity, but it should hopefully get my point across.)
I presented a complete, internal thought to further your understanding of my position.
Considering your misinterpretation of the question with which I opened my involvement and your apparent ignorance of my qualifying statement that I was being facetious, I suggest you consider that perhaps you misinterpreted this as well.
One of the reasons I will usually convey my reasoning and my reasons for arriving at certain conclusions in detail is that we often come from very different perspectives and have different knowledge bases. I may have some underlying assumptions or philosophies that you do not share, and vice versa. Specifying what they are allows greater understanding in the exchange of ideas because we can look at it from the other person’s perspective, not just our own.
(Once again, I am detailing my reasoning. I could cut the last two sentences and just assume that you understand it, but I would have failed to explain why I hold the position that I do.)
We aren’t discussing the mechanics of how something functions in a game, where it matters for one to “win” over the other, we are offering opinions on a piece of media. How this usually happens (going all the way back to Mando season two), is I give an opinion and am told it’s wrong.
Therefore, I give further detail on my opinion (or perhaps revise my opinion in certain ways) to try and make it more clear, defend it, and/or arrive closer to what I believe to be “true.” Notice, I didn’t jump on someone who said they liked it. I stated my own opinion, and defended it against people who disagreed with me. At any time, you could end the argument by simply saying “we can agree to disagree,” but instead you continue to argue against my opinions and insinuate (if even that subtly) that I am not arriving at my positions in good faith.
If you want to maintain a “kind atmosphere,” abandon an attack rather than demanding a surrender. Because for me to avoid these arguments, I would have to abstain from giving my opinion. And who wants an echo chamber?